Our Story

Dan, my darling husband turned another year older today. I watched him sit on the back porch of a dear friend’s house laughing and smiling through his tired eyes as he came from a long work week. I couldn’t help but sit in a posture of gratitude for this man that God gifted me. God answered my prayer 13 years ago when I sat on my piano bench and wrote a prayer song of all the things I wanted in a man. A week later I met him, and the rest is history. Our friends asked us to tell our story of how we met, and I wanted to share it with you today.

During the cold winter month of February, I found myself in my last year of College singing in the opera, Suor Angelica, playing the role of a novice nun. I sang and Dan was in the audience. Our friends introduced us in the lobby, standing there in my nun costume I said, “hello” and he said, “hello” and we were engaged 6 months later. On our second date Dan played his guitar, we worshiped together on his couch and we shared our stories. On my drive home that night, I was crying tears of joy as The Wedding Song from 1971 stared playing on the Christian radio station. “Thank you, Jesus He is perfect,” were the words that came from my mouth that evening. I didn’t ask God if he was the one, I just knew it. Only knowing Dan 1 year, I walked down that isle toward him and said, “I do.” Those two words have brought the most delight to my life and now 2 sons, a ministry, and a cat named Alfredo later, life keeps getting more beautiful.

I remember hearing an interview with Billy Graham’s wife who said she loved her husband very much, but that didn’t mean she didn’t want to kill him from time to time. Ha! Marriage is hard and has its shares of mountain and valley seasons. It’s amazing how I can go from a place of pure love to, “you are driving me absolutely bonkers!” in a matter of minutes. Two of the most important lessons I have learned so far in these last 13 years, is the importance of grace and encouragement. Through mountains and valleys, I want more of the mountains and with a desire for great and not mediocre, grace and uplifting each other are tools that have given us just that, more mountains!

When you live with your spouse for almost your entire life, you will get hurt by them, you will get angry with them, and they will say and do stupid things. Without grace, these things can eat away at your marriage like a worm inside of an apple. Pretty soon all the little offenses grow so great that the worm eats the entire apple, and there is nothing left. Grace isn’t just for a time-to-time occurrence, we must have grace for the day-to-day occurrences. When striving for more grace, I realize that a lot of my own pride gets in the way of grace. I want to be right for goodness sake, but the longer I’m married, being right is not all it’s cracked up to be. Sometimes it’s okay to be wrong or to just keep your mouth quiet even if you believe you’re in the right. Grace is given to us every day by our Heavenly Father, so we need to have grace every day for our spouse.

Another helpful key in our marriage, is encouragment and making each other feel special. Our dear pre-marital counselors, Don and Beverly Kelly taught us a fun and extremely helpful idea. They told us to always outdo each other with who is treating each other better. Make it a game through your days. When I’m crabby and rude, Dan can simply say, “I’m winning today,” and I quickly get the point. When I lay in bed at the end of the day, I sometimes think about how I treated my husband that day. Was I kind? Did I leave him little love notes in his lunch box and make him feel special? I also know that the world is not always so great at building people up, it usually wants to tear down. In your household with your spouse, be their biggest cheerleader, tell them how wonderful they are and show them how special they are to you.

Daniel is easy to love, and that makes marriage wonderful. He loves our boys so well, He loves God and people deeply. He will give his shirt off his back if someone asks for it and his playful self makes life fun, you just never know what you are going to get with him. Dan is evidence in my life that God gives us good gifts and wants to give us the desires of our hearts. I am praying with my friends today who desire marriage, that marriage will come. I pray for you who desire more mountain top marriages, to have more mountain top marriages and I pray that all who are weary, will find comfort and joy in your relationship with your spouse.

Love and God’s great Blessings to each and everyone of you today.

 

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Published by Emily Rodewald

Emily is a writer and worship leader. She has written several worship songs, she is a co-author or two children's books and has begun writing about the light of Jesus in her blog at www.emilyrodewald.com. She is a co-founder of Parallel Ministries and a mom of two boys, George and Oliver. She has been married for 13 years to the man of her dreams, Daniel. She and her family live in beautiful Montana where they enjoy taking the boys fishing, going on adventures, and renovating their new home.

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